About education
Let us read these lines in Tanach (the Old Testament), in Brit Hadasha (the New Testament) and in other books:
Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
Draw attention to these words: 'in the way he should go'. It is important: to teach child Bible from the childhood. In that case 'he will not depart from it'. According to Jewish tradition (Tosefta, tract "Hagigah", ch.1, law 2), '(when) son began to speak then father teach him "Shma'' (prayer ''Sma Israel'' - "Hear, Israel'' which it is necessary to read twice per day - in the morning and in the evening), Torah and the holy language (Hebrew).'' (Quot. to: J.Agur. Written and Oral Torah. P.1. Tel-Aviv, p.13. In Russian)
There are these words in Tosefta: "What must father do for his son? He must do him circumcision (i.e. do circumcision rite on the 8-th day after his birthday), to teach him Torah, trade and marry (to) him.'' (ibid.)
'When son is 5 he is your master, when he is 10 he is your servant, when is 15 he is your double, then he is your friend or enemy depending (on) his education.' (Hasdai ibn Greskas. P. 1230. Quot. to: rabbi Joseph Telushkin. Jewish wisdom. Rostov-na-Donu, 2001, p.147. In Russian).
Ephesians
6:4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in
the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
Parents must not provoke children, shout (at) them because of they then will become irritated too. Give love, love only to your kids!
Why does this commandment addressed to fathers? '... Bengel says that mothers show almost a heavenly patience, but 'fathers can fall (into) anger more quickly' (Commentary of W.Barkley to the New Testament).
'Luter's father was strict right up to cruelty. Luter said: 'He who don't birch (his son), he hates son but besides birch(-rod) have you apple always to give him when he do rightly' (ibid).
''We should not say to a child: I will give you something, and later change your mind. For this teaches the child to lie. (Sukkah, 46b)'' (Parents and Children: Notes http://www.mtholyoke.edu/courses/hgarrett/documents/jewishfamily.html)
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"Let the dignity of other people be as important to you as your own," we learn in Pirkei Avot or Ethics of the Fathers. Judaism is about deeds, and parents can emphasize this basic value by regularly showing how it translates into everyday actions. Even the two loaves of challah on the Shabbat table have a lesson to teach us. Why, ask the Rabbis, do we cover them? To save the bread the "embarrassment" of being blessed last, after the wine.
If our rituals teach us compassion for the feelings of a loaf of bread, how much more so do they teach us about caring for the feelings of other human beings!'' (HELEN MINTZ BELITSKY. Beginning at Home: Raising Menshes http://www.socialaction.com/families/Beginning_at_Home.shtml)